Playing Victim in the Story of Your Life


VICTIM: a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action.  synonyms: sufferer, injured party, casualty; fatality, loss; loser “a victim of crime”


While there are times in our lives that we have the power to manipulate the outcomes of our circumstances, there are also times where we find ourselves in situations that truly are out of our control.

Things happen in our life that, in every sense of the description, classifies us as a victim. In that moment, you are free to it for a time.

Our society tells us that we are never to be weak, to consider ourselves fragile—but the truth is there are times when we are. Sometimes, this state of being allows us to deal and heal more completely. We can assess our circumstances for what they are, how it makes us feel, how it came to be and how to process it—and perhaps, in some instances, how we might be able to avoid it in the future.

It is not whether we are the recipient of some adverse action in our lives, because we all will be at some point, but the most important thing is to work diligently not to remain with the “victim” mentality. There is power in words. We are what we think. Even though you might not be able to choose what happened to you, you can choose what you do with it going forward. Moving from the label of “victim” to “survivor” can mean the difference in remaining stagnant and desperate in our emotions and genuine healing and hope.  Being a victim is not a choice, but playing one is—only you can change the starring role of your life.

If you find yourself in a role of “victim”—just remember, there are times we can’t control things that happen to us, but it’s not your circumstances that shape you; it’s how you react to your circumstances.

 Rise above. Be more.